Q: How do I find the strength to forgive my ex when my heart is torn, hurting and bleeding

The fact that you have decided to ask this question shows your willingness to rise above the hurt and get over your ex, which is a very mature step. It is good, you have acknowledged the hurt and pain in your heart and it is alright to feel that way. Frankly, it is difficult to … More Q: How do I find the strength to forgive my ex when my heart is torn, hurting and bleeding

Q: I hit my girlfriend because I was frustrated with her during a heated argument. I did not mean to do it, I hate myself for doing this. How can I make things right? Please help me on this

The fact that you are looking for answers is a good start it means you are willing and open to change, having said that domestic violence is never a good thing whether you mean to or not. The first step is apologising to your girl friend and seeking professional help from a counselor or psychologist. … More Q: I hit my girlfriend because I was frustrated with her during a heated argument. I did not mean to do it, I hate myself for doing this. How can I make things right? Please help me on this

Q: Is masturbation a sin? What if I don’t watch pornography while masturbating? I get an erection and I masturbate right away.

Before addressing the question of whether masturbation is a sin or not, it is vital to point out the fact that sin is synonymous with what it means to be human. Furthermore, as humans we are inherently sinful. No one is sinless and no one will ever be sinless here on earth. In saying that, … More Q: Is masturbation a sin? What if I don’t watch pornography while masturbating? I get an erection and I masturbate right away.

Q: Someone close to me recently committed suicide. Could I have done something different? I am struggling to return back to ordinary life.

Grief is a natural process following the loss of a loved one. It is natural to have a host of questions and emotions especially after the suicide of a loved one. That confused emotional state is partly your mind trying to make sense of things and part of the grieving process. Few elements will determine … More Q: Someone close to me recently committed suicide. Could I have done something different? I am struggling to return back to ordinary life.

Q: When my boyfriend broke up with me, he started dating my best friend, they are now making me jealous. I feel like I will never find someone who will love me for who I am, what should I do?

It is perfectly normal to be jealous and hurt when your ex-boyfriend starts dating your best friend. No matter who you are, when something like this happens, it is painful and if it goes unresolved it will eat you up from the inside out. Though a lot of issues stand out in this question, self-worth … More Q: When my boyfriend broke up with me, he started dating my best friend, they are now making me jealous. I feel like I will never find someone who will love me for who I am, what should I do?

Q: I have never really fitted in with my siblings as I am very different to them from the way I dress, the health issues I have and the different circumstances I am in compared to them. I’m also not into the same things they are into. I try to make a better relationship with them but it’s hard because I don’t know how to. How do I make a better relationship with them without making it noticeable that I want to have a better relationship between them.

The honest truth is your siblings are lucky to have you as a member of the family, someone who genuinely wants to build a better relationship with them. That shows how mature you are and how much you love your siblings. Anyone would be proud and honored to have a sibling like you in their … More Q: I have never really fitted in with my siblings as I am very different to them from the way I dress, the health issues I have and the different circumstances I am in compared to them. I’m also not into the same things they are into. I try to make a better relationship with them but it’s hard because I don’t know how to. How do I make a better relationship with them without making it noticeable that I want to have a better relationship between them.

Q: I am struggling to get over my ex, he has moved on and has a new girlfriend but I think I still love him. How do I make the feelings stop?

It is normal for anyone to struggle with moving on, especially after a long relationship. Everyone desires to be loved, God put something in all of us, a yearning for connection and companionship. Companionship is how we were meant to do life, never feel bad or ashamed when you miss someone who you were in … More Q: I am struggling to get over my ex, he has moved on and has a new girlfriend but I think I still love him. How do I make the feelings stop?

Q: How does pornography affect me, as a young man?

The effects of porn go far beyond sexual enjoyment, porn affects an individual’s whole life and everyone around that individual; family friends and mostly spouses (future or current). The effects of porn are more subtle but very severe. Though there is little evidence to show this, it is widely believed that porn is what’s at … More Q: How does pornography affect me, as a young man?

Q- I really want to get a tattoo but my parents have made it clear that as long as I am under their roof they will not allow it. I just turned 18 and going into my first year of university. I want to get the tattoo secretly because I feel my parents are being unfair/ unreasonable/ childish, however, at the same time I do not want to dishonor/ disobey my parents.

Things can get messy between parents and their children especially when it comes to the issue of values and expectations. You are right in saying that you are now 18 and can now make various decisions by yourself, legally you are now an adult and can make ‘wise’ decisions. In a nutshell you have 3 … More Q- I really want to get a tattoo but my parents have made it clear that as long as I am under their roof they will not allow it. I just turned 18 and going into my first year of university. I want to get the tattoo secretly because I feel my parents are being unfair/ unreasonable/ childish, however, at the same time I do not want to dishonor/ disobey my parents.

Q- I am a 14 year old girl and I am not allowed to date while still in school, a guy in my grade asked me out, I like him but I don’t know what to do

It’s a very natural thing during the beginning of adolescence for guys and girls to like each other, however in saying that It sounds like you have four choices and each with its own consequences which you have to weigh very carefully. Option 1 is to follow the rules put in place by your parents … More Q- I am a 14 year old girl and I am not allowed to date while still in school, a guy in my grade asked me out, I like him but I don’t know what to do