Is there Pain from Pleasure, young men struggling with choosing between God and worldly pleasures.

Most people are not aware that pleasure is a problem in this computer age, which shows you how much of a problem pleasure really is. Perhaps the best answer to this question is found in J. C. Ryle’s book Thoughts for Young Men. An extract from the book is found below

 

Youth is the time when our passions are strongest–and like unruly children, cry most loudly for indulgence. Youth is the time when we have generally our most health and strength: death seems far away, and to enjoy ourselves in this life seems to be everything. Youth is the time when most people have few earthly cares or anxieties to take up their attention. And all these things help to make young men think of nothing except pleasure. “I serve lusts and pleasures:” that is the true answer many a young man should give, if asked, “Whose Servant are you”

 

Young men, time would not permit me to tell you all the fruits this love of pleasure produces, and all the ways in which it may do you harm. Why should I speak of carousing, partying, drinking, gambling, theatre-going, dancing, and the like? There are few to be found who don’t know something of these things by bitter experience. And these are only instances. All things that give a feeling of excitement for the time–all things that drown thought, and keep the mind in a constant whirl–all things that please the senses and delight the flesh–these are the sort of things that have mighty power at your time of life, and they owe their power to the love of pleasure. Be on your guard. Do not be like those of whom Paul speaks, “Lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God” (2 Timothy 3:4

 

Remember what I say: if you would cling to earthly pleasures–these are the things which murder souls. There is no surer way to get a seared conscience and a hard heart towards the things of God, than to give way to the desires of the flesh and mind. It seems like nothing at first, but it tells in the long run

Consider what Peter says: “Abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul” (1 Peter 2:11). They destroy the soul’s peace, break down its strength, lead it into captivity, and make it a slave.

 

Consider what Paul says: “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed” (Colossians 3:5). “Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires” (Galatians 5:24). Once the body was a perfect home for a soul–now it is all corrupt and disordered, and needs constant watching. It is a burden to the soul–not a helper; a hindrance–not an assistance. It may become a useful servant, but it is always a bad master

 

Consider, again, the words of Paul: “Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature” (Romans 13:14). “These,” says Leighton, “are the words, the very reading of which gave Augustine a great conviction of heart, causing an immoral young man to be turned into a faithful servant of Jesus Christ.” Young men, I wish this might be the case with all of you

Remember, again, if you cling to earthly pleasures, they will all be unsatisfying, empty, and pointless. Like the locusts of the vision in Revelation, they seem to have crowns on their heads: but like the same locusts, you will find they have stings–real stings–in their tails. All that glitters is not gold. All that tastes sweet is not good. All that pleases for a while is not real pleasure.

 

Go and take your fill of earthly pleasures if you will–you will never find your heart satisfied with them. There will always be a voice within, crying, like the leech in Proverbs 30:15, “Give! Give!” There is an empty place there, which nothing but God can fill. You will find, as Solomon did by experience, that earthly pleasures are but a meaningless show–promising contentment but bringing a dissatisfaction of spirit–gold plated caskets, exquisite to look at on the outside, but full of ashes and corruption within. Be wise in your youth. Write the word “poison” on all earthly pleasures. The most lawful of them must be used in moderation. All of them are soul- destroying if you give them your heart. Pleasure, must first have the guarantee that it is not sinful–then it is to be enjoyed in moderation.

 

And I will not shrink from warning all young men to remember the seventh commandment; to beware of adultery and sexual immorality, of all impurity of every kind. I fear that we don’t very often speak on this part of God’s law. But when I see how prophets and Apostles have dealt with this subject, when I observe the open way in which the Reformers of our own Church denounced it, when I see the number of young men who walk in the wicked footsteps of Reuben, and Hophni, and Phinehas, and Amnon, I for one cannot, with a good conscience, hold my peace. The world becomes more wicked because of our failure to teach and preach on this commandment. For my own part, I feel it would be false and unscriptural delicacy, in addressing men, not to speak of that which is preeminently the “young man’s sin.

 

The violation of the seventh commandment is the sin above all others, that, as Hosea says, “takes away the understanding” (Hosea 4:11). It is the sin that leaves deeper scars upon the soul than any other sin that a man can commit. It is a sin that destroys thousands of young men in every age, and has even overthrown a few of the saints of God in the past. Samson and David are fearful proofs. It is the sin that man dares to smile at, and smoothes over using the terms: thrills, love, uncontrollable passions, and natural desires. But it is the sin that the devil rejoices over, for he is the “unclean spirit;” and it is the sin that God abhors, and declares He “will judge” (Hebrews 13)

 

Young men, “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18) if you love life. “Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient” (Ephesians 5:6). Flee from the opportunity of it–from the company of those who might draw you into it–from the places where you might be tempted to do it. Read what our Lord says about it in Matthew 5:28, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Be like the holy servant Job: “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl” (Job 31:1). Flee from talking about it. It is one of the things that ought not even be hinted about in conversation. You cannot even touch black grease without getting your hands dirty. Flee from the thoughts of it; resist them, destroy them, pray against them–make any sacrifice rather than give way to them.

 

Imagination is the hotbed where this sin is too often hatched. Guard your thoughts, and there will be little fear about your actions. Consider the caution I have been giving. If you forget everything else, do not let this be forgotten

 


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