It is sad to hear that bullying causes young people to fear going to school as indicated in the question.What is happening to you is bullying and it is not right. Bullying can be through physical or verbal, physical hitting pushing and verbal gossip, lies about you, being called names- all these are forms of bullying and as soon as it, starts speak out go to the teacher or the school counselor. Australia has a zero tolerance policy to bullying. Even if the bullying is on social media speak out- it is also a form of harassment.
No one has the right to tease, make fun, push and taunt any one especially in our school where children and young people are meant to learn in a safe and secure environment. Your first step is not accepting what is happening to you, the worst thing you could ever do is to accept the fact that you are bullied and try to keep quiet hoping that it will stop. You deserve to be happy at school, you have a few options in regards to bullying.
It is important for you to know that just before some one is targeting you does not make you weak, powerless or worthless. You are not weak, and you are a champion. It is very important for you to change the way you view yourself because it affects how you carry yourself. It is important to see yourself not as a victim but a victor. The reason being this will give you the strength you need to stand up to bullies because you know your value and who you are. So the first step in tackling this problem is seeing yourself in a positive light.
Having the courage to talk to someone is important if you are being bullied. Sometimes, just telling the bully to stop can be effective. If that doesn’t work ask friends, parents or teachers for their help to deal with the issue safely. Usually young people don’t like their parents getting involved in what happens at school but this is one of the best ways to ensure that you have enough support through the whole process. Parents will encourage you and provide the right amount and type of support if they know what’s happening in your life.
Quick Tips If You Are Getting Bullied, And You Feel Safe To Do So:
• say ‘No!’ or ‘Stop it!’ firmly, only when you feel safe to do so.
• walk away
• try to act unaffected or ignore the person
• talk to a trusted adult at the school or at home
• ask someone for help ideally, parents or teachers for their help to deal with the issue safely
Strategies Not Recommended For Dealing With Bullying Include:
• bullying the person who has bullied them
• remaining silent about the problem.
To talk to someone go to:
Kids’ Helpline 1800 55 1800 or http://www.kidshelp.com.au
To report online bullying (cyberbullying) go to: Cybersmart – Online help and reporting http://www.cybersmart.gov.au/report.aspx
To report bullying that may constitute a crime go to:
Australian Federal Police http://www.afp.gov.au
For more information and support go to:
Reach Out http://www.reachout.com.au
Australian Psychological Society http://www.psychology.org.au
Australian Guidance and Counselling Association http://www.agca.com.au
For more information related to bullying go to:
Bullying. No Way! http://www.bullyingnoway.gov.au